I know how you feel. My husband left me. I feel that at 40 how will I ever find someone. I hate being alone. But I do know if we remain faithful it doesn’t matter what they did we can have someone in the life to come if we are faithful. But for me I don’t want to spend the rest of my life alone. So I will look. I don’t blame the church for him leaving. I blame him cause he is not living righteous. If we are righteous we will not be alone.

only those who enter into the new and everlasting covenant of marriage in the temple for time and eternity, only those will have the exaltation in the celestial kingdom. …. how about those whose husbands have left them and there seems to be no more chance of getting married again?

Hello po sister Vicky, nainspired po ako sa very strong na decision niyo na magpapakasal in an early age of 19 and got married in the age of 20. Kasi po, i have a boyfriend now who is also a returned missionary and we’re already a year na in a relationship. And we are really pushing our decision to get married next year. I’m still 18 right now, and my boyfriend is 24 and I’ll be turning 19 if possible our marriage will happen next year. Masaya po ako sa mga comments nyo sa article nato, it helps me alot to really hold on to my decision to be married in the temple next year to the man i love. Kaso po maraming trials and oppositions kasi my family still wanted me to pursue all their dreams for me. Gusto ko po sana malaman kung paano nyo po nalagpasan lahat o kayay napa approved yung parents mo na magpapakasal sa edad na 19 po kayo? I’ll be glad of your response sis. Thankyou 🙂

Please let me say that I don’t have any objection with church members especially return missionaries deciding to get married early or in their young age. There really is nothing wrong about it, especially when you involved the inspiration of the Holy Spirit of the Lord in your decision. There are actually many advantages to going for it. Like having kids when you are still young, healthy and strong. And as you have mentioned, enjoying together the joy of accomplishing important things together.

Having said that, and please don’t get me wrong, I just thought if anyone decided to get married right after full-time mission, or early or at a young age like early 20’s, please remember that as you decide to follow the commandment of marriage, I hope you also decided to embrace and courageously face the responsibility that entails married life, which is solely yours after your wedding day!

I pray you also follow the commandment to be a responsible husband or wife and parents to your children. It says in “The Family
A Proclamation to the World”
The First Presidency and Council of the Twelve Apostles of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints
“The first commandment that God gave to Adam and Eve pertained to their potential for parenthood as husband and wife. We declare that God’s commandment for His children to multiply and replenish the earth remains in force. We further declare that God has commanded that the sacred powers of procreation are to be employed only between man and woman, lawfully wedded as husband and wife.
Husband and wife have a solemn responsibility to love and care for each other and for their children. “Children are an heritage of the Lord” (Psalm 127:3). Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousness, to provide for their physical and spiritual needs, and to teach them to love and serve one another, observe the commandments of God, and be law-abiding citizens wherever they live. Husbands and wives—mothers and fathers—will be held accountable before God for the discharge of these obligations.
By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners. Disability, death, or other circumstances may necessitate individual adaptation. Extended families should lend support when needed.”

This entails that you will be responsible for nourishing for and providing for your children’s needs. You and your spouse – not your parents! which is a common occurrence in the Philippines. Which is not right, if we truly understand and want to follow this, not only a proclamation, but a commandment.

Making the Decision at the Appropriate Time
President Harold B. Lee
“I am not trying to urge you younger men to marry too early. I think therein is one of the hazards of today’s living. We don’t want a young man to think of marriage until he is able to take care of a family, to have an institution of his own, to be independent. He must make sure that he has found the girl of his choice, they have gone together long enough that they know each other, and that they know each other’s faults and they still love each other. I have said to the mission presidents (some of whom have been reported to us as saying to missionaries, ‘Now, if you are not married in six months, you are a failure as a missionary’), ‘Don’t you ever say that to one of your missionaries. Maybe in six months they will not have found a wife; and if they take you seriously, they may rush into a marriage that will be wrong for them.’
“Please don’t misunderstand what we are saying; but, brethren, think more seriously about the obligations of marriage for those who bear the holy priesthood at a time when marriage should be the expectation of every man who understands the responsibility; for remember, brethren, that only those who enter into the new and everlasting covenant of marriage in the temple for time and eternity, only those will have the exaltation in the celestial kingdom. That is what the Lord tells us” (in Conference Report, Oct. 1973, 120; or Ensign, Jan. 1974, 100 ).

President Spencer W. Kimball
“Couples do well to immediately find their own home, separate and apart from that of the in-laws on either side. The home may be very modest and unpretentious, but still it is an independent domicile. Your married life should become independent of her folks and his folks. You love them more than ever; you cherish their counsel; you appreciate their association; but you live your own lives, being governed by your decisions, by your own prayerful considerations after you have received the counsel from those who should give it. To cleave does not mean merely to occupy the same home; it means to adhere closely, to stick together:
“‘Wherefore, it is lawful that . . . they twain shall be one flesh, and all this that the earth might answer the end of its creation;
“‘And that it might be filled with the measure of man, according to his creation before the world was made.’ ( D&C 49:16–17 .)” ( “Oneness in Marriage,” Ensign, Mar. 1977, 5 ).

Lastly, please also consider this: Work for an Education
President Gordon B. Hinckley
Work for an education. Get all the training that you can. The world will largely pay you what it thinks you are worth. Paul did not mince words when he wrote to Timothy, “But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel” ( 1 Timothy 5:8 ).

More often than not, those people who asked you “why too early?” are the most concerned people in your life, who do not intend to hinder or stop you from getting married early, but are just making sure you succeed with your decision, with your marriage, and your future family life.

It is my prayer that you take this comment as a loving reminder. As I have said, I don’t have any objection to early marriage, as so long as you also embrace the responsibility that comes with it.