“Where did I go wrong?”

“Am I not worth loving?”

“Will I ever find someone who will love me?”

“What’s wrong with me?”

Hours drag like days, and days can feel like years. You might lose interest in many other things in your life, And every time you wake up, you face another day without the person you love. It can feel like you’re trapped in that sadness.

So, how do you overcome that intense feeling of loneliness and worthlessness? How do you move forward? How do you forgive and let go?

Here are some truths that helped me overcome heartbreak.

I am not defined by a single relationship. More people truly love me. I may have lost that person I loved, but I must remember that I am more than that relationship. I am also a significant part of other people’s lives.

My family has been there through it all, loves me and also grieves at my heart break. My friends and the people who truly love me will be right beside me through thick or thin.

It may not feel like it when I’m in such pain, but they have my back because to them I am an amazing person worthy of all the happiness in the world.

My smile can brighten their day, and they look forward to seeing that again. To these people, I am more than enough, and there’s nothing in this world that will make them love me less.

There is someone who loves me without end, and I can forever count on that love. Aside from my family and friends, it brings peace to my heart knowing that God loves me more than I could ever comprehend.

I am His child, and He knows my potential. He knows my absolute worth. I may have gone through my own pain, but He also felt my pain and emptiness. It is comforting to remember that He’s preparing me for the right person and relationship that’s meant for me.

The world may leave me or turn its back on me, but He never will. He is the One that I know loves me no matter what. His love for me is incomparable, unparalleled, and that is the kind of love I rightfully deserve.

He knows me better than anyone in this world. I am one of His greatest treasures, and He has a glorious plan for my eternal happiness.

Despite the pain, I can feel at peace and hopeful knowing my great worth in the eyes of my Father in Heaven. Knowing that no matter what happens, I have Him to love me eternally and unconditionally.

I am worth the kind of love and happiness that will never end. I know this may sound crazy, but a heartbreak, no matter how painful it is, can be exciting, too. If you can be so happy with someone you are not meant for, just imagine how amazing it will be when you find the right one?

At one point, I lost faith in relationships and commitments, especially after going through heartbreak after heartbreak.

But the time will come when all of those heartbreaks will make sense, and you will meet the right person for you, the one with whom you can have the kind of love you truly deserve – an eternal love that only grows stronger over time. I hung on tight to that promise.

I am a strong person with superb talents and potential. I am exquisite. When I lost all confidence after my heartbreak, I reminded myself of the real me. I am a person with wonderful talents that Heavenly Father has given me. I reminded myself that I can be more than what I was, and that I am of great worth.

If someone doesn’t see my worth, it doesn’t mean that my worth is gone. It’s simply that – they just don’t see it. It is their issue, not mine. The kind of people that I want to be like and be around will recognize my worth as a child of God.

I know my worth, and I can get back up again after trials knock me down, because my Savior is there to help me. I’ve endured heartaches and misery before, and this one will not keep me from being happy.

Knowing our worth helps us forgive and move forward. With this truth, I also found it easier to forgive the person who broke my heart. I was reminded that he also has great worth in the eyes of the Lord, and that what happened to us is for the best. That made it less difficult for me to move forward, knowing that if I follow God’s plan for me, I will be in a better direction.

You should also remember these things, because they apply to you, too, no matter where you live or if you’re a man or a woman. You are also loved beyond imagination. You are an intricate and beautiful person. Your worth will never depend on someone else’s opinion. Your worth will always be there no matter what happens, and no matter how many people try to break you. You, as well as those you’ve parted from, deserve eternal love and happiness in Heavenly Father’s plan, forever and always.

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In this article, we’ll explore some of the myths that may be affecting your views about falling in love.

We need to be attracted first before we can fall in love. Attraction is important in a relationship but opportunities for two people to fall in love are wasted when people believe attraction is the motivating force and reason to pursue someone. Of course, there are real stories of couples who felt attraction at first sight, but there are also successful relationships out there that did not start with instant attraction.

 When you give someone a chance and get to know them, you might be surprised to find your feelings and desire grow with depth and meaning one step at a time. This attraction is not short and shallow nor is it fleeting and empty because the attraction is not based only on physical attributes, but is built upon kindness, understanding, and acceptance.

Take it slow. Time is on your side. Some say that you really have to take it slow so you get to know each other, learn each other’s quirks, go through challenges and experience different things together. For some, dating for a long time means that they are really sure of each other once they decide to take the relationship to the next level.

 While there is truth to this, we must not delay commitment or marriage too long, because we want to conform to this norm. Years of dating the same person are not necessary, although we should spend enough time that we feel like we really know them. When we feel that we have found the person we want to spend eternity with, prayed about it and received confirmation from the Lord, we must choose and act according to our righteous desires. This can take a different amount of time for each couple, but there is no set timeline in dating and marriage.

Deep love comes naturally when you find the right person. We sometimes hear people saying that they loved one person the moment they set their eyes on them. While this is true in some instances—like parents seeing their newborn for the first time—in most cases, love is not something that we feel instantly. Love results from our choices, actions, and behaviors in our relationships. It is built upon service, investing in another person’s happiness, accepting flaws, and embracing differences. It also must be continuously nurtured.

God has prepared the right person for me already. If there’s one right person for each of us, then our free agency is in jeopardy. Marriage is one of the most important milestones in our mortal journey and we can be sure that God will not interfere when we make the choice of who to marry.

Although we recognize that there is divine intervention in many aspects of our lives, including guidance in finding a person to marry, it is ultimately our choice, our worthiness, and our actions that determine the person who becomes our eternal partner. 

God is surely preparing each of His children who are willing to be guided, to meet a potential future companion with whom they can build a family. However, there is no “one right person,” only right choices that we can make to find a person that God has helped prepare for one of His faithful children.

When you love, you accept and embrace everything. This is partly true, but there is another side to the coin as well. While love is about accepting and embracing someone fully and unconditionally, love is also about recognizing the improvements we need to make to have healthier and longer-lasting relationships. We don’t need to change who we are or lose ourselves in the process, but we need to put the necessary effort into becoming a better version of ourselves not only for us, but for the family we are trying build.

Love and acceptance should not come at the cost of common sense, however. While we all have character flaws, mistakes, and temptations specific to us, we should still be wise in choosing our eternal companion. Are they willing to work to improve with you and build the kind of eternal family you both want? Do you share the same goals in life? Love alone should not make us ignore red flags that might arise in a relationship that could signal serious trouble in the future. That being said, the power of repentance is real, and love goes hand in hand with forgiveness. You can each be a hand for the other to hold, to support, encourage, and help each other on your journey back to Father in Heaven.

Love comes in different types and forms. When we feel it, let’s not restrain ourselves because of myths that we grew up hearing from the media and other people. When it comes, let’s embrace it and let it grow, not only in our hearts but also in our choices and actions.

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Gospel Conversion

Latter-day Saints want to find spouses who have been converted to the gospel of Jesus Christ. Why? Because deep and lasting conversion is required in order to raise a gospel-centered family. Raising a family is filled with challenges that either build or break one’s faith. When tackling these challenges, these young singles want a partner whose faith is firm and steadfast no matter the challenge.

Raising a family also requires teaching your children the principles of the gospel and guiding them towards their own conversion. A father can only fully teach the value of conversion when he has been converted himself.

It is also important to note that gospel conversion doesn’t equate to going on a mission.  Gospel conversion is having a continuous Christlike commitment to always follow the Father no matter where they are, no matter their circumstances. They want a partner whose service and commitment to the church is not driven merely by social expectations but is deeply rooted in the gospel of Jesus Christ.

Remember that you are standing on holy ground

Elder Bruce C. Hafen, in one of his talks, counseled, “When any of you—men or women—are given entrance to the heart of a trusting young friend, you stand on holy ground.” The secret to treating a date the way Heavenly Father would want them to be treated is to treat them with utmost respect and reverence.

Just like we prepare spiritually, emotionally, and mentally to enter the holy temple and make covenants with the Lord, we should also approach and build relationships with preparation, commitment, and devotion to each other, because both men and women are temples of the Lord.

Work is a spiritual necessity

Many people work to fill economic needs. But work is more than that. It is a spiritual necessity. The Lord has blessed us with gifts and talents that help us fulfill the commandment, “In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread”. We are all expected to become self-reliant and to provide for our own needs and those of our family.

The Lord has also declared that “fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families.” At the same time, mothers are commanded to become “primarily responsible for the nurture of their children.” Work is necessary in fulfilling these divine responsibilities.

The secret to winning someone’s heart is not about having a high-paying corporate job. It is mostly about understanding the value of work and the blessings that it can provide, not only to one’s family, but also to building the kingdom of God here on Earth.

These are just three of the secrets to winning a Latter-day Saint’s heart. There are more but these are the most fundamental, as they are the foundation from which Christ-centered relationships are built. Please feel free to comment and share the relationship “secrets” that most touch your heart below.

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Mormons are encouraged to date. Through this way, men and women can easily meet people whom they can form an eternal companionship with. If this is your first time to have a date with a Mormon, here are some things that might happen:

1.) Expect laughter.
Ever wonder why Mormons are considered one of the happiest groups? Perhaps loving laughter plays a role on that. Mormons love to laugh. First dates can be awkward at first, but don’t worry, your Mormon friend might have a funny story in store. Honestly, they sometimes use laughter to ward off the jitters, just so you know. *winks*

2.) They ask questions about you. A lot.
Please don’t think they’re creepy; it’s just that Mormons love asking questions a lot especially with the person they’re talking to. Not only are they making you feel you’re interesting, they genuinely want to get to know you better. They sometimes label it as “Building Relationships of Trust.” You can ask your Mormon date when you go out what that means. That’s going to be an interesting topic for sure.

3.) They love to talk.
Aside from loving laughter and asking a lot of questions, Mormons love to talk. Scratch that, they love to share everything they love with you. You will hear about fun stories during their youth days, what they did to help them decide what course of study to take, and some of the things they consider life changing. Brace yourself, though, for you will get a “How about you?” question next, for sure.

4.) You could get “When I was on my mission…” stories
A lot. Whether they are trying to impress you, helping you understand what missionaries do, or just truly wanting to share one of the most special events in their life, expect that you will get sentences that start with this phrase. Some of the most awesome events of their lives happened while serving the Lord for 24 or 18 months and these experiences made them learn many things. If they’re sharing the most significant events of their lives to you, you must be pretty special.

5.) They could stare at food awkwardly before eating it.
It may knock you a bit sideways, but please don’t feel bad if you see your Mormon date staring at his food awkwardly for a few seconds. Yes, they’re hungry, but no, they’re not picky with food. They’re just contemplating on doing something. Sometimes you could get a “Could we pray first?” before eating.

6.) They love arcades.
A date with a Mormon is not complete without a trip to the arcade. They’re just probably trying to show you their skills in the most subtle way possible. Besides, arcades are always a fun idea, right?

7.) They want to know more about your family.
To some Latter-day Saints, their family is everything. They would eagerly share something about their folks and their siblings. Because of these close family ties, they would probably ask you about your family, too.
8.) They have a quotation for almost everything.
One thing that might impress you with your Mormon date is his ability to have quotes on everything. This could make you wonder “Where did he/she get all these quotes?” There’s one from a certain general authority and another one from a mission companion. The quotes they share may be random but you’ll come to appreciate them!

9.) Random handshakes with random people.
Going out on a date with a Mormon can bring a lot of surprises. One of them is your date giving random handshakes to complete strangers. They would refer to this person as “Bro. Cruz, my ka-ward,” or “Sister Diaz, my ka-stake.” You might find it weird, but believe me when I say that’s totally normal.

10.) You’ll get goodbye handshakes, too.
Saying goodbye at the end of your date with a Mormon is not much of a problem. You’ll probably get a friendly handshake, and a courteous “I enjoyed my time with you.” Well, if you’re lucky, you could receive a “Thank you, Sister,” or “Thank you, Brother.” Once again, that’s totally normal.

Going out on dates with a Mormon can be unpredictable. But knowing beforehand some of the things you can expect to happen doubles the fun. Enjoy!

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